Sleepless in Stuttgart, Stockholm, Stirling…

The stupid EU referendum that the Conservative Party have called is causing me – quite literally – sleepless nights. The danger that too many people, especially in England, are falling for the lies peddled by the demagogues controlling the right-wing press, is deeply worrying.

As so many have done, I grew up and live as a European:

  • my mother is from Germany, my father is from Britain;
  • I have both passports, and have lived in both states;
  • I am married to a someone from Germany who has a German passport, but has lived and worked here since the early 1990s;
  • our son has both passports and like his parents speaks both English and German fluently;
  • my wife’s family all live in Germany;
  • my parents, who both now have only British passports, have retired to Germany, and can do that because of reciprocal healthcare arrangements and the like;
  • we visit family in Germany with ease – in fact, my wife is visiting her sister in Hamburg right now.
My British and German passports

My British and German passports

I am very aware that purple passports are markers of incredible privilege in the global context – and having two means I can choose which one to use when, so I’m even more privileged than most! This freedom to travel is a privilege that I would rather everyone could share.

There have been many arguments against leaving because it would damage Britain’s interests (for example, I liked Carolyn Leckie’s take on this in yesterday’s National and Maggie Chapman’s recent piece on the fallacy behind the so-called Lexit). But it would also damage more than our direct economic or working interests. Given all that I have said about my family, Britain leaving would have profound personal consequences, many of them completely unpredictable, but it’s hard to see how any can be positive. And yet, all these things can be overcome, even if they would be difficult. For example, my parents after a lifetime of constant moving house (my father was in the British armed forces), have finally settled in Germany, but would almost certainly have to move back here – now in their mid-70s – when reciprocal healthcare arrangements end. It’s not great, but it can be done.

No, what worries me even more than the unfolding disaster for Britain or the personal difficulties I or my family might encounter is the complete unravelling of the European ideal (Jonathan Freedland elaborated on this in polemical form recently). Let me add to the family story:

  • my British grandfather (my father’s father, of Irish descent, marrying a woman from Peebles in southern Scotland, and eventually settling in Northumberland) fought in World War Two;
  • my German grandfather (my mother’s father, originally from the Saarland, near the present border with France, eventually settled in the Harz mountain area, later moving to Bonn) also fought in World War Two – on the opposite side.

When my parents wanted to get married, my mother’s father was reportedly somewhat sceptical about his daughter marrying a British man, and a soldier at that. But this did not last, and my father and my mother’s father developed a deep affection for one another over the years. My family is as dysfunctional as many, but it is also a great example of European integration, and the EU has – for all its faults, and I think they are many, as my MEPs will know from my emails and letters to them! – embodied much of that. We need structures, we need frameworks, we need patterns around which to build our lives, and the EU offers precisely that. The Brexiteers are wanting to throw all that away, and the readiness with which people are falling for their lies is what is causing me so many sleepless nights. I am, like so many of my generation and younger, a convinced European, right to my core (I often identify as European before I identify with any nation state):

We are the ones whose future will be most damaged by a vote for Brexit, sacrificed on the altar of Conservative Party internecine rivalry. That is unforgivable, and I’d go so far as to say it is a grave dishonour to all those who, like my two grandfathers, fought in World War Two and yet afterwards found ways to reconcile themselves to changed realities, even letting a daughter marry a descendant of the former enemy. Love across borders – what more powerful symbol can there be of what the European ideal is? And yet, we seem to be at risk of losing it all, in a mad headlong rush towards the Brexit cliff edge.

No wonder I’m having sleepless nights.


5 thoughts on “Sleepless in Stuttgart, Stockholm, Stirling…

  1. Thank you for writing this blog post, Michael. A much needed one, and should be widely read (as I have mentioned on Twitter). There are several emotional responses this EU referendum evokes in me. I am not a UK or a EU citizen, and I don’t live in the UK anymore. But this referendum upsets me as much as the ever-changing stringent immigration laws affected me. I know so many friends and their family members who are going to be directly affected by this idiotic referendum, and I worry about them. This whole nightmare IS because of fear of immigrants. This turd-politics can be polished however the Tories and the UKIP want, but underlying factor is the fear of immigrants that has been fostered by the Tories and their ilk for the following reasons: a) EU citizens in the UK have not been allowed to vote, and we can expect them to vote to stay, making this hugely undemocratic; b) the claims of economy, etc. doesn’t work because it is bad math and logic; c) EU referendum has become an issue in the forefront since the emergence of UKIP (I apologise for using UKIP, math, logic, all in the same paragraph!). I am almost certain that those who want to vote to leave, considering to or even on the fence or undecided will not be directly affected by the personal problems that would arise that you have outlined here; if they are they would see clearly that this has born out of intense dislike for immigrants. No matter how much David Cameron appeals to remain will not work. This is a result of the anti-immigrant sentiment that he and his party have been fostering. This is a referendum of recklessness, and to pretend otherwise is rubbish. Because of the recklessness of these individuals families like yours will be greatly affected. Part of me feels that when these voters, who want to leave, want to go on holiday to Spain and Portugal, and need to do paperwork for visas will then learn the consequences. But to let their reckless decision affect families such as yours is too much of a price to pay. I only hope that the numbers are wrong, and the U.K. will remain in the EU.

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  2. I don’t see one mention of democracy or the rights of self-government and self-determination which have been stolen by the EU.

    Yes, the world is not perfect – every country has its own culture, own laws own history own values and as a result we all want slightly different forms of government and the laws produced by those governments.

    But isn’t diversity a good thing? So why are you so against diversity? Why won’t you allow each country to decide what is best for it?

    but no! You cannot stand democracy – because democracy means the ordinary people deciding what is best for them – and because you don’t like what the ordinary people want, you would rather wipe out from the decision making process.

    That is appallingly selfish.


    • Did you not read the part in which I said I was unhappy with the EU and therefore continually engaged with my MEPs?

      I still think the EU can be changed from within – for example, TTIP is almost certainly on the rocks after citizen engagement. These things can be changed through people’s involvement. It might be harder than running away, but it’s worth it.

      It is far from selfish to want to engage in a process that brings people together, rather than one that pulls them apart – quite the opposite, in fact. I think it is Brexiteers who are selfish, seeking to deny others, especially young people, the benefits of international engagement that so many of us have benefited from.

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  3. BREXIT would be a big mistake. I agree with you. I also think that this is so important that people should be provided with all the facts and not so much emotion. Decisions are being based on fear and anxiety instead of rational and dreams of how it could work.

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